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1.Introduction:
"Cheating is just a name used to cover up its true definition. Lust, lies and betrayal all fall under the word cheat. Sin! Does anyone view cheating as being a sin any more? I’ve watched men that had great lives cheat on the their partner and then wonder why things aren’t going as good as it use to. Life seems to get a little more complicated when you cheat. It’s a mental disease, an illness or an unhealthy condition. A cheating man would put all of his trust into a close male friend and never worry about that friend betraying him, yet turn around and cheat on the one person who sleeps with him, knows all his secrets, fears and not think anything of it. I was once like that in past relationships and got nothing out of it but more fears; the fear of getting caught, fear of her doing exactly what I was doing to her. Thoughts like that will run though your mind constantly, until it gets to the point where it starts to show and affect you. Now, you want to know why she didn’t pick up the phone when you were calling. Where she’s going, with whom, and when she’ll be back."
2. A message to women! "knowledge is power when it comes to the opposite sex. Knowing what to expect before a formal introduction could be the must important psychological tool you have as a Woman when relying on your judgment of some ones character. Would you go on a job interview without knowing what position you’re applying for, and its requirements? Could you drive to a destination without directions? I think we all know the answer to those questions. Preparation is much better then isolation! Isolating your mind from the truth and not being prepared for reality. The reality is Good Men Do Cheat! Are you prepared for that?
My sole reason for writing this book was to inform the uninformed, you women! This book allows you to become a fly on the wall listening in on a great big conversation held by us men. Take what you want from your adventure, learn from it, and live by it. But in no way should you crucify all men over the information you have been allowed to learn. The book is called “Good Men Do Cheat”, not “All Men Do Cheat”. Do not make the mistake of confusing the two. I fear for men after you women get a hold of this book. The fear is of women passing false, negative judgment on a good man. This book isn’t here to deter you from finding the true relationship, but to guide you away from the negative aspect of that so-called “good man”. Ladies please do me this one favor, if you believe you have that true “good man” in your life, the one that flies above the radar of this book. The one who may have done wrong in the past, but worked his way back up to being a real good man. The one who made changes in his life to erase all the negative things he may have put your through while in a relationship with him. Please dispose of this book after reading. There’s no need for your mind to become anymore biased."
3. Get to know your man "Really"
" Men, has got to be the hardiest species on this planet to understand or figure out. A man could be as simple as 1.2.3, yet as hard as flying to the moon without wings. Or just to the moon! Men weren’t placed on this earth to be figured out, but if you would like to have a full time job, you are now hired to try. Most men would say that they are simple, easy going, and don’t demand much from the opposite sex. Yet we ask for, want, and try to get any and everything we can from them. I was once told that only a man could truly understand another man. That statement could very much be true. Hypothetically speaking, men are more like women when it comes down to holding personal conversations with each other and gossip. We go me into detail with other men and rarely leave parts out.
For years women fought to please, love, feed, sacrifice their own well being, bend over backwards then stand up straight again just to make sure that their men were completely happy. Now, I’m not saying you should stop doing all of the above and more, I am just here to let you know that it might not be enough! Men do appreciate all of the attributes a woman has to offer, but taking advantage of those great qualities sometimes seems to cloud our minds a little."
4. What we consider cheating
"This may be a real touchy subject to discuss with the opposite sex, Through my own research for this book and personal past experience I’ve learned that women and men may never agree or fully understand each other’s point of view on what men consider cheating. Some say there’s a thin line that you have to make sure you never cross. Which I believe should be set when trying to establish any relationship. Some have no tolerance for cheating at all! “If you are in a relationship, everything outside of your partner is considered cheating!” A little too extreme for me, but I am a man! Some say it depends on what you do and how far you go with it. The list goes on and on. So what I did was break the building structure of “cheating” down into three different categories to try to provide a better understanding of “what we consider cheating” (Flirt, Conversation, Sex)....
5. Different types of cheating men
"Men are alike in many ways. We enjoy most of the same activities, watch most of the same programs, and can sit and hold a conversation with groups of men for hours about little-to-nothing. The one difference found in men is the type of cheater they may be and their reasons behind the cheat. I know what you're saying to your self “cheaters are all the same” and yes you are right, but there are many different levels of cheating and many more reasons behind why a “good man” may decide to cheat. Here’s a small break down from the not-so-extreme cheat to an all out dog!"
6. Their TV fantasy "She's real in every way"
"In order to understand your “good man”, you have to think out side of the box. That box is you. Most women feel that their man loves everything about them (looks, size etc.). And in some cases, they do. But no matter if your looks, body type and size are what attracts him to you, you are not the only attraction! In the beginning the physical attraction is what hes drawn to, and then comes the mental attraction. But some where along the lines of a “long term relationship, fights, a little extra weight and him just being to use to you", the physical attraction takes a back seat (if not dies) “Beauty is in the eye of the beholder” but the beholder may have grown a little tired of your beauty! In most cases it’s not a lost cause, you just have to redefine your definition of beauty in order to catch his eye again. You do have the upper hand because he’ll let you know one way or another. Men will indirectly tell you what he’s attracted to. There’s games that he may play to throw you off. For example, has your man ever pointed out something he didn’t like on another female? "
7. To cheat or not to cheat
"Do we Question our selves?"
"When the word “cheater” is brought into conversation, the thought that usually comes to people’s mind is a back stabber, someone that should not be trusted, heartless, uncaring so forth and so on. People assume that the cheater never takes time to consider the cheated. “You don’t care. You weren’t thinking of me while you were doing what you were doing.” It is extremely hard for a woman to understand that while we were talking, dating, and sleeping with other women we really did contemplate on should we continue or really try to fight the constant thought of cheating.
It’s not as bad as it seems! Most men do take time to think about what they are going to do or have already done. It’s a conversation held within their mind or with a good friend. We do question if we should cheat. We consider all options. Things like “is she worth it? Being caught by our partner. How long will we try to make this one last, do we really want to cheat right now (things might be really good at home at the time) there’s no need to fuck it up!” Now does it make the situation any better? No! But what it does is give you a little more understanding on how good, and considerate your “good man” truly is!"
*Women are the reason why men cheat*
"For every cheating man, there are two women that will help him accomplish what he’s set out to do. The cure for this dramatic mental disease we call “cheating” resides in the hands of who really has full control over it…You (women). The first thing you must ask your self is, "how would you feel if the shoe was on the other foot?" And then say to your self, "i could be wearing those same shoes right now." That alone should give you the mental push towards leaving that cheating man alone. Here are some things to think about when confronted by a man who is in a relationship and you find out."
8. I do...Not!
Most men fear of commitment comes from the fear of looking into the future. Having their lives planned mapped out and put into some form of order, isn't the true idea of a man. Men generally tend to be care free when it comes to their lives and looking ahead. Structure and discipline inforced from someone, isn't our ideal way to live life. We make our own rules, so when we break them there's no one that could be angered or disappointed. So when the word "commitment" comes up, we chock! Men tend to feel like they're compromising themselves when they "choose" to be in a monogamous relationship. Some women believe that our main reason behind not wanting to be committed is that we lust for other women. Lusting and wanting other women is just a very small part of the big reason behind our fear of commitment. It has a lot more to do with having the feeling that everything in his life will now be in order...your order! The phrase "coming and going" now turns into "coming and staying" "He" soons turns into "WE" And even if the transformation comes easy for him, there are just some habits he'll find hard to drop. So we look for excuses. The blame game seems to be our only way out"
9. What you won't do, he's already paid for!
"Confidence is one of the main ingredients in the beginning stage of a relationship platform. It’s the first attraction after appearance. Some would say it’s the person’s confidence that wins them over when searching for a partner. Their ability to maintain intelligent conversations, their poise when faced with a situation, style and grace. Yeah, I would agree that confidence brings out the best in a person. It also brings out the best in people you are involved with “You make me a better person.” “Your strength gave me the strength to carry on.” “Your words helped me understand.” Confidence goes a long way, and touches many. But is there such thing as being too confident? When does having too much confidence start to pay a toll on your relationship? There is nothing wrong with “letting it all out” while in a relationship. My motto is, "being in a fully committed relationship is like jumping off a building with blind folds on." Trust and never be afraid to jump, or try new things. Being in a relationship is like having a second you around, or it should feel like it. Would you deprive your self of any needs, wants, or pleasures? Wouldn’t you be there for yourself when in need? Or would you allow your “confidence” to get in the way?"
10. The real "Good Man"...
Is there such a thing?
"Most of the men that I’ve been in contact with while writing this book considers themselves as being “good men”. However, these are the same men that help me gather my information on writing this book. “Boys will be boys.” “If I don’t see it then it is perfectly fine with me.” These are just some of the statements that women say about their “good man”. It's as if you are giving us a secret key to cheat, as long as we keep it far from home. There are plenty of good men out there. In fact, 50% of men come into a relationship with hopes on being good, taking the relationship to that next level and building a family. Those thoughts never get lost in between the good and the bad of a relationship. Comfort, trust, lenience, these are the things that a man takes advantage of when in a long term relationship. Those are the tools that you females give away in order to keep your “good man” happy. There are good men out there, they just haven’t met that true woman that won’t compromise her self respect for the sake of a man. The true good man starts with a true strong good woman. A good man will recognize what’s strong and real in a woman, and stay true to her. He would be everything that you thought only lived in dreams. His touch will feel like the first time, every time. He considers you in every way and wouldn't give anything less than what you deserve. A real good man will make you want to become more of a good woman. Time spent together feels like no other feeling ever felt before. He’ll take you to that place of happiness and protect you from everything that falls short of that. He’s more than good, he’s great!"
11. A message to men!
"I feel I owe all the men who helped me put this book together an explanation. This is in no way an apology, because I truly feel in my heart that I have done no wrong towards any of you while writing this book. But, it’s only right for me to explain why I have decided to put all men secretes and more into a book for the world to view. I have never asked anyone a question pertaining to this book with out telling him why I was asking the question. I allowed men to ask me all types of questions, make statements, and give their own opinions on all subjects and chapters I wrote about. I’ve had men tell me that some of the things that I was writing about weren’t factual, so I asked for their opinion and changed mine. This book isn’t based on Carl Anthony Roberts’s life story. I did not sit back, gather information from people, and write what I felt was true and disregarded the truth. This book represents men. Therefore, I am already apart of it, author or not!"
12. Q&A's
"1. If you are dating and the other person believes that it’s headed towards a committed relationship, would you continue to date or consider yourself as being in a new relationship? 60% of men said they would continue to date other women.
“Why should I committee to someone when we’re just dating! Dating doesn’t mean commitment”
“A relationship doesn’t form unless we both share the same feelings. Women catch feelings quicker then most men”
2. When dating, if a woman asks you if you’re seeing any one, would you tell he the truth? 30% said yes. 50% said no 20% said it depends.
“Well it all depends on how I feel about the female asking the question. If I’m really digging her and looking for more out of our “friendship/relationship” then I might lie just to keep here around. Why lose something that might work out”
“I would lie. You have no real obligation to a woman while dating. Everything is on your terms, and they should feel the some!”
13. Dedication page
14. Carl's Bio
15. Description of :Good Men Do Cheat